Self-doubt can cripple a writer. Even kill his or her dream of becoming a
successful published author. Continual rejection (from both publishers and
agents) can get under your skin and rip it to shreds until there’s nothing
left, nothing to bleed out. Believe me, I’ve been in those trenches and it
wasn’t pretty. So how did I pull myself out of this darkness? I. Just. Kept.
Going. I felt I’d put too much time and energy into writing and planning books,
I thought I might as well keep going, as I love doing this too much to quit.
Plus, I’m truly a stubborn broad.
From the time I decided to learn how to write a book (1995) until I could
finally call myself a published author (2012), there were a lot of those ‘dark
times’. Still, I stuck with my dream of becoming published. I learned the craft
of writing, joined writing groups, took courses, honed my skills, and wrote six
books. Translation: I got my hands dirty. I practiced, persevered, and learned
the art of patience. Those three key things pulled me out of my funk, and kept
me going.
Another way I coped was to learn to develop a positive mental attitude through reading
books and blogs geared toward positivity and success principles. This alone
will take you far in anything you want to accomplish in your lifetime.
When you buy a house, you make an investment. When you go to school to
learn a profession or trade, you invest in yourself. Writers can better their
best only by investing the time and energy into their craft by going to
conferences, writing workshops, taking writing courses, reading books on
writing, and practice, practice, practice. I’ve got a lot of years under my
belt just with practicing and learning, and have two book series to show for
it. Was it easy? No. But I knew I was being true to myself by following my
heart, and investing in myself.
I truly believe I was called to be a writer. At least the small voice
inside my head said so. Like those blood donor ads that say ‘it’s in you to
give’, so it was for me by following the path as a writer and give the world
the stories bubbling in my imagination. Yes, I’d love to be a bestselling
author. Yes, I want to make money doing what I love. Most writers want that. I
know I have something to say so I stay on the path, stick to my plan, and smile
with each step I take.
Well done, Sharon! You hit the proverbial nail on the head. If writers fear rejection and don't see publication as an extrememly long-term proposition, perhaps they should be in a different line of work. Thanks for sharing.
ReplyDeleteThanks, Anne! It's a tough gig and television shows romanticize a writer's life. Yeah. Thanks Castle! LOL!
DeleteI love that quote! It is important to acknowledge that the work we do is an investment in ourselves.
ReplyDeleteIt sure is, Chris! And every book, novella, short story or poem is an expression of ourselves. Cheers!
DeleteWell said! As a recently published author, I can confirm that being a stubborn broad helps ;)
ReplyDeleteLOL! You got that right, Dianna! Cheers!
DeleteAnd sometimes you have to remember that it's just there within you. You can't stop even if all the marketing and submitting in the world is not overly successful. Like bashing your head against a stone wall...
ReplyDeleteTrue, Vonnie! And even though we're all writers, we have our own journeys ahead of us.
DeleteWell said, Sharon! You have to love the journey as well as the destination!
ReplyDeleteThanks, Lisa! And it's who you're with on that destination that makes all the difference! Cheers, my friend!
DeleteI completely agree, Sharon. Patience, a positive mental attitude, and perseverance are SO important for writers who want to succeed.
ReplyDeleteThanks, Carol! We've learned so much along our writing journey together! Glad it's with someone like you! Cheers!
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